Over time, the entire society undergoes behavioral changes, and all new practices or cultures face prejudices and barriers. The practice of cuckold has marked the 21st century, as the expression of sexual freedom in opposition to racial prejudice and machismo. However, the practice has raised controversy about ethics involving racial issues.
Several groups of the black movement condemn the practice of cuckold, claiming that it is a racist fetish, based on prejudice and stereotypes. Others claim that it is a way for whites to use black men, just as in slavery times.
But after all, is the interracial cuckold a racist fetish?
A comparison with BDSM
To gain a better understanding of the ethical issues of cuckold (or interracial cuckold), it is necessary to compare it to BDSM practices. The acronym BDSM, represents the set of sexual practices involving bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadomasochism and other behaviors.
Any decent human being must consider the idea of causing pain, subduing and humiliating another person wrong. It is also agreed that any healthy person should not enjoy being humiliated or in pain. However, there is a huge community of people who identify with these practices, and do so with full consent.
These BDSM communities are not made up of bad or mentally ill people, they are just people who enjoy this kind of situation within a sexual context. Outside the sexual context, they are normal people, who treat other people with respect and dignity, and also demand to be treated that way.
But how to define if a practice is the result of sexual freedom or if it is a violation of ethics? The answer is the circumstances in which the practice takes place. Based on the circumstances, we can
define two parameters to assess the ethics of a sexual practice: The first parameter is the circumstances in which the practice takes place and the second is the social behavior of the practitioners.
Based on these two parameters, we can ask two questions to verify the ethics of a sexual practice:
1. Is there a consensus between the parties?
2. Is the practice restricted to the circumstance?
If the answer is yes to both questions, then there is no reason to question the ethics of the practice, because if there is consensus among the participants and if the practice is restricted to the sexual context, not influencing behavior in society, then there is no to question yourself.
The same question applies to cuckold. Is there a consensus between the white couple and the black man? Do white couples act without prejudice and treat black people equally? If the answer is yes to both questions, then there are no ethical violations in practice.
Racist fetish or racial fetish?
As with BDSM, circumstances define whether cuckold is a racist or racial fetish. The racial fetish is sexual desire motivated by the difference or quality of a certain race, such as the sexual superiority of black men. The racist fetish is motivated by believing that all the qualities of black people are reduced to just the sexual quality. While one is motivated by a specific quality, the other is motivated by believing that only that quality exists. That's the big ethical difference.
Who is the cuckold's victim?
All too often, black movement groups accuse the cuckold of being a racist practice, putting the black man as a victim. They are accusations that the practice is a way for whites to use blacks as was done in slavery.
The claim by these groups is wrong for two reasons. The first reason is to define that the black man who practices cuckold does not have the discernment to realize if he is being used or if he is making his own decisions. The second mistake is to define that the black man is the victim, without analyzing the practice of cuckold. To clarify better, let's make a comparison between cuckold and BDSM.
Let's assume that in a BDSM relationship, where there is a submissive and a dominator, someone is being used by the other person without their consent. The obvious is to assume that the victim is the person who assumes the role of submissive, because the Dominator is the one who has the power to act on the other person.
In most cuckold practices, the white couple assumes a submission to the black man, who acts as the dominator, enjoying the white woman (wife, bride or girlfriend) in front of their spouse. Usually the cuckold is accompanied by humiliation of the white man and declarations of submission by the white woman to the black man.
Therefore, contrary to what the black movements claim, there is no reason to suppose that the black man would be the victim, being used by the white couple, since it is the black man who holds the power and control of the situation.
Metro Times Review
Metro Times, which is the Detroit metropolitan area's largest-circulation weekly newspaper, raised the issue through its media analyst, Dan Savage. Dan Savage's analysis was the one that broached the subject.
According to Dan Savage, there's nothing wrong with viewing a person as a sex object, as long as you treat them like a human being before and after sex. Furthermore, consent between people must be the basis for the realization of any sexual fantasy, as it is what differentiates the violence simulated by BDSM from the real violence.
And he concludes by stating that it is okay to practice cuckold, as long as the practitioners are not prejudiced hypocrites. Furthermore, it is necessary to be engaged in racial causes, supporting black movements and contributing to the institutions of the cause, contributing to a more egalitarian society.
With this, perhaps the cuckold practitioners will be able to build a utopian future, where the concern of black men is more related to which white couple to choose, rather than worrying about being victims of the police.
References
(metrotimes, 2007) Questions about cuckold.
https://www.metrotimes.com/detroit/questions-about-cuckolds/Content?oid=2186347
(whiteaccomplices guide) White accomplices, for justice and racial equality.
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